These shirts may be purchased in jest but I’m not sure a five-year-old fully understands that.◊♦◊As a dad, I get that it is tricky riding the line between “it is up to me to raise a strong, confident woman who makes smart, informed decisions for herself that are meant to please her more than they please me and that sometimes I’ll have to be the bad guy to her to ensure she learns this;” and, “my daughter is my property and I know what thoughts go through the mind of a 15-year-old and I’ll kill him! Why suggest we need to shorten the leash on our female children while giving out even more to our male children who we stupidly assume are out to get our girls? We may not have a very appealing acronym to start a t-shirt business, but we feel pretty good about the message we’re trying to send our girls.
to me.◊♦◊Now, I know there’s every chance that the man (can I safely assume he is also a dad? In fact, very little of what he did the day I watched him sporting his ‘D. A shirt that reads ‘Dads Against Daughters Dating’ is horrible for a number of reasons: This shirt also comes in many forms: there’s the ‘Dads With Shotguns on Prom Night’ shirt; or, ‘Dads Who Lock Up Their Daughters’ Vaginas When They’re Born’ shirt. ‘Dads For Daughters Dating’, or ‘Dads Who Accept Their Daughter’s Choices’ is more in line with how my wife and I are trying to raise our girls.
Now of course, not everyone who holds these beliefs actually claims the term “Christian Patriarchy” or “Quiverfull.” My parents certainly didn’t. What matters is not the name that is claimed, but the beliefs – the beliefs outlined above.Oh, summer – a time to spend with our families doing things we often end up fighting over; a time to complain about how hot it is (only if we’re talking about the humidity of course); and, a time to watch men on the beach walk around with their young daughters proudly wearing their ‘D. I expect, “I know what went on in my head when I was a young man,” as the first line of defense a ‘D. This reads to me as, “I knew I wanted to have sex all the time and a young girl can’t expect that if we’re dating, I shouldn’t be allowed to act out those urges.” This notion, dear ‘D. I hope both my daughters have fulfilling relationships no matter what the sex is like if sex is even part of it – that is not for me to dictate.◊♦◊It is not for ‘D. Receive stories from The Good Men Project, delivered to your inbox daily or weekly. I’m also willing to give other parents the benefit of the doubt that they’re also doing their best to raise young men and women who will be able to enter safe and consensual relationships, even if at a younger age than I would choose for them. D.’ will use when they talk about the significance of the shirt. I don’t have to talk to them about their sex lives to support their choices. I think it is a father’s duty to make sure their daughters know they are strong enough to make their own choices, and that the choices they make have their own merit and weight without having to come to dear dad to ask for his blessing.— Would you like to help us shatter stereotypes about men? I saw these shirts for myself with my own left-leaning eyes. It is because the idea of ‘my daughter’s virginity is too precious’ isn’t the same as ‘I want my daughter to be safe’. We show our daughters that females are as strong as males, and hope that sets the path for who they will and will not fall in love with.◊♦◊Now, I’m sure people are yelling at their shattered computer screens, “No way dude, you won’t want your daughter going on dates! A little bit of sex-positivity goes a long way in making our daughters feel comfortable talking to us about any relationships they do pursue, or so I hope. You don’t have to say, “Dear Daughter, I hope you have awesome sex,” to show that you support the autonomy of your little girls. I think it important no one treats their daughters like meandering princesses lost in the woods.I was told that children are always a blessing, and that it was imperative to raise up quivers full of warriors for Christ, equipped to take back the culture and restore it to its Christian foundations.